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Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: a review of the research

Emotionally-focused therapy (EFT) has emerged as one of the most evidence-backed forms of couples therapy (Byrne, Carr & Clark, 2004). It is founded on the concept that marital distress results primarily from “ongoing absorbing states of distressed affect and the … Continue reading

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Stop Playing and Start Talking

Have you ever noticed the Ouija board effect in the beginning stages of a relationship, where slight moves from either member of the couple can move the other member in that same direction (e.g., toward or away from the relationship), … Continue reading

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Mirror, Provocateur, Healer: how your partner can help you grow

“A person hasn’t any idea what their soul looks like until they gaze into the eyes of the person that they’re married to. And then, if they’re any kind of decent human being, they spend the next couple of days … Continue reading

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2 Simple Sentences to Express Your Feelings (and get results)

When our feelings flare up, we tend to express ourselves in the least effective way: we blame, criticize, manipulate, or demand.  The problem feels like the OTHER person’s actions, which “cause” our hurt or angry feelings.  In that moment, it … Continue reading

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Igniting your Relationship through Couples Therapy

You used to be amazing together. You were open, supportive, understanding… passionate. Somehow, it changed. Maybe you have been drifting away from each other. Maybe you fight too often, or struggle with betrayal. You want to recreate that secure, close, … Continue reading

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