Category Archives: Communication

Relationship Program in Los Angeles and Orange County: Save and Enhance Your Relationship

Your relationship can be a source of strength and support throughout your lives, but it must be nurtured. Divorce rate in the US: 46% Divorce rate in California: 60% Divorce rate in Orange County: 75% Even marriages that stay together … Continue reading

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Marriage Killer #3: Pursue-Withdraw

<- Go Back to Marriage Killer #2: Withdraw-Withdraw Marriage Killer #3: Pursue-Withdraw Bruce: “I can’t believe you left the dishes in the sink again.  You just don’t seem to care that there is anyone else in the house.” Amy: “It’s not … Continue reading

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Marriage Killer #2: Withdraw-Withdraw

<- Go Back to Marriage Killer #1: Attack-Attack Marriage Killer #2: Withdraw-Withdraw Bruce: “I don’t know what I want anymore.  Part of me just feels dead.” Amy: “Well – if that’s how you feel, what’s the point of even trying?” The … Continue reading

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How to Kill the Marriage Killers

<- Go back to Marriage Killer #3: Pursue-Withdraw How to Kill the Marriage Killers 1) Recognize the killer.  Each one of these killers can sometimes masquerade as your partner. Sometimes the only way you can tell you are in the … Continue reading

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Marriage Killer #1: Attack-Attack

<-Top 3 Marriage Killers (intro) Marriage Killer #1: Attack-Attack Amy: “Why did you take so long to come home tonight?  I’m sick of you putting your job before me.” Bruce: “That’s ridiculous.  You’re the one who is always taking work calls … Continue reading

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Top 3 Marriage Killers: are these threatening your relationship right now?

They’re vicious, persistent, and they might be lurking in your relationship right now, ready to threaten or even kill your most important possession  – your marriage.  These marriage killers start out innocently, but if the two of you don’t recognize … Continue reading

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I Nag Because I Love You: silly things we do in relationships #1

Many of us grew up with cartoons of Wilma nagging her husband, Mr. Flintstone, for any number of reasons – her frequent disapproval and Fred’s childlike reactions to it.  This wasn’t the only model of a nagging wife I was … Continue reading

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Why Can’t My Partner Listen To Me?! How understanding your partner can be threatening – and what to do about it.

“I don’t get it,” says a 30-something woman in my office. “He doesn’t seem to hear what I am saying. I can tell him over and over again how I am feeling, and he just sits there or disagrees. It’s … Continue reading

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Stop Playing and Start Talking

Have you ever noticed the Ouija board effect in the beginning stages of a relationship, where slight moves from either member of the couple can move the other member in that same direction (e.g., toward or away from the relationship), … Continue reading

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Mirror, Provocateur, Healer: how your partner can help you grow

“A person hasn’t any idea what their soul looks like until they gaze into the eyes of the person that they’re married to. And then, if they’re any kind of decent human being, they spend the next couple of days … Continue reading

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2 Simple Sentences to Express Your Feelings (and get results)

When our feelings flare up, we tend to express ourselves in the least effective way: we blame, criticize, manipulate, or demand.  The problem feels like the OTHER person’s actions, which “cause” our hurt or angry feelings.  In that moment, it … Continue reading

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Igniting your Relationship through Couples Therapy

You used to be amazing together. You were open, supportive, understanding… passionate. Somehow, it changed. Maybe you have been drifting away from each other. Maybe you fight too often, or struggle with betrayal. You want to recreate that secure, close, … Continue reading

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